5 reasons why I still love over commercialized holidays (especially Valentine’s Day).

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T minus one week and one day until Valentine’s Day and I am stupidly excited!! I’m buying little goodies for all of my coworkers and then heading to Atlanta, Georgia to meet up with my best friends for the weekend! I am single and, weirdly, I think I’m more excited to celebrate because of that.

I don’t think Valentine’s Day should only be celebrated by those in a relationship. I think the day is about showing those you love that you love them. And, we should all be loving on ourselves – so use the day to do that! I wrote a post about how to celebrate VDay when you are single, so give that a looksie if you want some fun ideas!

So, as in many cases, I turned to Twitter to ask the birdies if they celebrate VDay and here were the results:

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To my utter dismay, 64 people said they hated it. 😦 I am sure some of those respondents don’t HATE it, as I did receive quite a few comments saying they wish there was an “indifferent” option. But STILL. So, I am writing this post in hopes I can change your mind. Actually, it’s okay if it doesn’t. I accept your opinion. It just might not be for everyone. But, this is why Valentine’s Day and other over commercialized holidays are my FAV!

  1. Holidays are in-your-face reminders to tell your loved ones that you love them and are grateful for them. Many people say they don’t need just one day to celebrate their love because they do it all year… BUT DO YOU REALLY?? Now, I’m not saying you don’t love the person you are with all year round, but do you specifically tell them you love and appreciate everything they do each and every day? I feel like that would be a lot. Holidays, to me, are a reminder that we made it to another milestone with the people we love and we should appreciate the heck outta it.
  2. Another reason for a cute ass outfit?? Oh, OKAY. Who doesn’t want to have a reason to go shopping or get all cute looking? This goes along with my self-care February, but sometimes we forget to take care of ourselves. In the infamous words of Donna and Tom: “Treat Yo’self”

There is almost one holiday every month, and I believe we should be making sure we are treating ourselves once a month… so the timing kinda just works out PERFECTLY.

3. Alright, alright… maybe one other reason I love over commercialized holidays is because I am a marketer. And well, damn, if holidays aren’t the best time to show off all your new, fancy sh*t, then when is?! On the flip side, as a consumer, I totes want to see all the pretty, new things because again, “TREAT YO’SELF!” There are usually sales or new products that you or a loved one just NEED TO HAVE. So, yay!!

4. It’s a day to be my most obnoxious self and have an excuse for it. I love bringing balloons and candies to work and dressing up in wild colors and wearing little heart ears. My coworkers seem to judge me when there isn’t a reason behind it… But, on special days, I can bring in VDay cards or pumpkins full of candy or a live Turkey for Pet a Turkey day (okay, kidding on the Turkey, but you get the jist!)

5. Last, but not least, holidays are a celebration of you. You made it to another holiday. You are strong, brilliant and in one piece. Getting through each day can be challenging. How often do you reward yourself for it? You should every day! But, like celebrating love and practicing self-care, love and praise for yourself can sometimes be forgotten. So, you made it to another holiday and you kicked ass the whole way there. Go you!!


I am constantly grateful and appreciative of the people I have in my life. I know I couldn’t have gotten to where I am now without my family and friends and myself. I try and tell them that as often as I can, but on holidays I do it up!! I have also been single for so long and spent so many holidays (especially Valentine’s Day) feeling sorry for myself. Like, woe is me. But why? Being single means learning more about myself, appreciating myself, AND spending more on me and less on boyz. LOL!

I understand you may see holidays as businesses and marketers just using and abusing the day, but instead try to see the good in it. Try and remember the day is there for you to give some extra love to all of those around you. So maybe you do spend the whole year giving love to your sig. other, but do you remember to give it to your gals pals and your fam?

When we work on seeing the good in things, it brings us more joy. So give it a try this year! ❤


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14 Responses

  1. I’m one of the people that voted ‘hate it’ I’m not fond of valentines because it’s just so much pressure to get the cutest and most thoughtful gift because a hallmark company tells us. Possibly an unpopular opinion but hey, I’m all for the rest of the holidays so there’s always that hahahah Anna xx

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  2. Bri

    I love this post! I generally don’t go for holidays that push consumerism so I try to show appreciation on other days, but for people who still find value in them, I think it’s great to show people you them

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  3. rapdoubleohbaby

    You just got me excited for Valentine’s Day! And you’re absolutely right, we don’t celebrate each other or ourselves so it’s great to have a day a month dedicated to love, women, youth, family etc! Loved this post.


  4. Chloe Jane

    Great post ♥️ I love special holidays, I’ll always wanna celebrate them because it’s fun, I’ve missed a few valentine days in the past few years tho because I lived apart from my boyfriend so we didn’t get to see each other but now I wish I just celebrated it by myself!! Hehe

    Chloe Chats xx


  5. kattieh

    I love aspects of Valentine’s Day – e.g. cute outfits, going out, treating yourself. Once this guy who had liked me for ages (meaning about 10 years) sent roses to the school I was working at. I was so embarrassed because all my students started asking me ‘why is your face going red?’ and ‘who is …. ….?’ It was a lovely thought though, and it is a great way to show how much you appreciate and love someone.


  6. hanmwill

    Abby always makes me feel so positive and like I can take on the world! Love this post, and definitely love having a day all about love, whether its for a boyfriend/girlfriend, your friends or family or yourself, its nice to have these special days!


  7. I actually wrote a post last week talking about the fact that I have a love/hate relationship about valentine’s day, but by the end of the post. Once I had written out all my thoughts on the topic, I came to the conclusion, that while I am not a fan of how commercialized it is and the pressures that can come from it, I like all the things you mentioned, and also feel like if it’s done right, valentine’s day can be a beautiful holiday. Great post xxx

    Melina | http://www.melinaelisa.com


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