Having been clouded by insecurities throughout our lives, in most aspects of our lives, I am surprised that we don’t learn to outgrow them. None of us are strangers to the feeling of not being good enough. The truth that we all know, yet can’t internalise it to our own brains, is that no one is perfect at anything.
I have recently started a job where I feel massively insecure. I don’t feel like the most qualified person to do it, and I haven’t particularly excelled at any task I have done. In the mind of a perfectionist and overachiever, this might automatically translate to my mind telling me I’m not doing a good job. But I’m there, and now I have to be good enough.
But don’t worry, apparently, this is more common than you think. This is called imposters syndrome.
Imposter syndrome is commonly understood as “a false and sometimes crippling belief that one’s successes are the product of luck or fraud rather than skill.” (Merriam-Webster). This feeling can be found in men and women, however, the number of men that experience the phenomenon are far fewer and they experience is with much less intensity.
Being the millennial I am, I made a poll on twitter to find out if there were any more of you feeling like you had suffered from imposter syndrome at new jobs.
I had professionals, graduates, CEOs, and people of all ages respond to this poll. Out of 68 of these, 85% had felt imposter syndrome. Of course, so many of them volunteered some advice and comfort onto me, which I now pass on to you.
I also took to Instagram for advice (because that’s how we’re dealing with out problems now).
Here is the original post for you to see all the original advice. But I also neatly compiled it all on this post for an easier read!
- Everyone was new at some point. Everyone felt the way you do now. You need to remind yourself of that. Just after I had a major promotion and was feeling out of my depth, someone I admired enormously reminded me of this and said “Hold your head up, walk the walk and fake it till you make it”. He said he was still faking it -which was absolutely not true! This helped me a lot in the first few months – Jane
- I don’t think there’s an easy way to get over this. You just need to keep reminding yourself to believe in yourself and be positive – Louise
- Not sure if this will help but I recently went through that with my new job as well. Someone else told me this and it helped me to cope with imposter syndrome. There was a reason that you were chosen over someone else for the position that you’re in. You were trained for this, and your personality helps make your skills and knowledge even more attractive and valuable to the company. That’s irreplaceable! Others may be able fit the job criteria, but no one is able to do it like you do. If that made any sense 🙂 – Geraldine
- I sometimes get this way on the lead up to photographing a wedding. It’s also usually because I’m not taking care of myself enough. So I do something that I find relaxing and remind myself of all the reasons why I’m good at what I do. We’re so used to picking ourselves apart that we forget to credit ourselves too. They chose you for a reason ♥️ – Beth
- I had this feeling when I landed my dream internship at my dream company. It was super isolating and emotionally draining. you just have to believe that your true talents got you there and forget the noise💕 – Jasmine
- I think the best way to overcome it, is to look at what your core values are and what type of person you want to be. are you sticking to your core values and working to be the best version of yourself? if you are then you’re not being an imposter and it’ll go away with time. – Michelle
After reaching out to social media, I realised this phenomenon was something more common than I thought. I would have never imagined lawyers, CEOs, confident, and hard working people to have felt like this.
Although I am not the best at taking advice and letting insecurities get the best of me at times, I know that everyone else is winging it too. Even those that you wouldn’t imagine.
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