How To Deal With Imposters Syndrome

Having been clouded by insecurities throughout our lives, in most aspects of our lives, I am surprised that we don’t learn to outgrow them. None of us are strangers to the feeling of not being good enough. The truth that we all know, yet can’t internalise it to our own brains, is that no one is perfect at anything.

I have recently started a job where I feel massively insecure. I don’t feel like the most qualified person to do it, and I haven’t particularly excelled at any task I have done. In the mind of a perfectionist and overachiever, this might automatically translate to my mind telling me I’m not doing a good job. But I’m there, and now I have to be good enough. 

But don’t worry, apparently, this is more common than you think. This is called imposters syndrome.

Imposter syndrome is commonly understood as “a false and sometimes crippling belief that one’s successes are the product of luck or fraud rather than skill.” (Merriam-Webster). This feeling can be found in men and women, however, the number of men that experience the phenomenon are far fewer and they experience is with much less intensity.  

Being the millennial I am, I made a poll on twitter to find out if there were any more of you feeling like you had suffered from imposter syndrome at new jobs.

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I had professionals, graduates, CEOs, and people of all ages respond to this poll. Out of 68 of these, 85% had felt imposter syndrome. Of course, so many of them volunteered some advice and comfort onto me, which I now pass on to you. 

There were some, like Sophie and The Wandering Pram, that reminded us that we can always use the resources available around us. God bless the internet, am I right? 

Holly, Elle and Jane with the fake it ’till you make it technique…

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Those that told us to lean into the insecurity curve and learn from it! Mac and Meg, and The Newbury Girl 

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The Newbury Girl 

Cara, the CEO of LernaHQ, Manic DissectionPaula (a lawyer!) really showed us that no matter who or what your job is, imposter’s syndrome can get to all of us. 

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I also took to Instagram for advice (because that’s how we’re dealing with out problems now).

Here is the original post for you to see all the original advice. But I also neatly compiled it all on this post for an easier read!

  • Everyone was new at some point. Everyone felt the way you do now. You need to remind yourself of that. Just after I had a major promotion and was feeling out of my depth, someone I admired enormously reminded me of this and said “Hold your head up, walk the walk and fake it till you make it”. He said he was still faking it -which was absolutely not true! This helped me a lot in the first few months – Jane
  • I don’t think there’s an easy way to get over this. You just need to keep reminding yourself to believe in yourself and be positive – Louise
  • Not sure if this will help but I recently went through that with my new job as well. Someone else told me this and it helped me to cope with imposter syndrome. There was a reason that you were chosen over someone else for the position that you’re in. You were trained for this, and your personality helps make your skills and knowledge even more attractive and valuable to the company. That’s irreplaceable! Others may be able fit the job criteria, but no one is able to do it like you do. If that made any sense 🙂 – Geraldine
  • I sometimes get this way on the lead up to photographing a wedding. It’s also usually because I’m not taking care of myself enough. So I do something that I find relaxing and remind myself of all the reasons why I’m good at what I do. We’re so used to picking ourselves apart that we forget to credit ourselves too. They chose you for a reason ♥️ – Beth
  • I had this feeling when I landed my dream internship at my dream company. It was super isolating and emotionally draining. you just have to believe that your true talents got you there and forget the noise💕 – Jasmine
  • I think the best way to overcome it, is to look at what your core values are and what type of person you want to be. are you sticking to your core values and working to be the best version of yourself? if you are then you’re not being an imposter and it’ll go away with time. – Michelle 

After reaching out to social media, I realised this phenomenon was something more common than I thought. I would have never imagined lawyers, CEOs, confident, and hard working people to have felt like this. 

Although I am not the best at taking advice and letting insecurities get the best of me at times, I know that everyone else is winging it too. Even those that you wouldn’t imagine. 


If you would like to read more posts like these, check out my lifestyle section on my blog!

Credits: Featured Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash

31 Responses

  1. Geraldine

    I love this Lav! It’s very comprehensive and it’s nice you featured so many people from Twitter and Instagram … and thank you for featuring me as well 😊 Impostor’s Syndrome is something I seriously wish would go away forever but it always comes back at some point. It does feel reassuring and comforting to know that you aren’t alone in feeling it and people who are well into their career do too!

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  2. Seriously, what a great, well-thought out, well-executed post. For not being good at anything, you kinda killed this LOL! This post is not only informative but really helpful in making me feel not alone in my insecurities. A great reminder that you are kicking ass and if you don’t believe it, the internet will be there to back it. Love all the support and love this post!! 💕

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  3. Oh my goodness I love this so so much!!! It truly made me feel not alone how you compiled everybody’s responses who feel this way as well. You are such a kind soul girl and I’m so lucky to call you my friend! So full of positivity, support, and light! It’s so true, we are all just winging it. Every single day ❤

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  4. Jane@abfabtravels.com

    Interesting post. Getting people to share their experience and offer advice is a great idea because it demonstrates just how wide spread this condition is. Fake it till you make it? Right now I am faking being a domestic goddess! Who am I kidding?

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  5. Love this post! I’ve been seriously struggling with imposter syndrome since I started my new job. Always feel like I’m not living up to expectations. But I find that investing in myself and pushing through the fear has really helped me produce better results and feel more confident.

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  6. I absolutely love this, it’s so great to see how many people reached out with advice and support. I can definitely relate to the feeling of not excelling at work and this made me feel so much better ❤

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  7. Love this post! I have to deal with imposter syndrome in all areas of my life: in work, in my relationship, as a mother and as a blogger- there’s just no escaping it. The worst has to be as a mother- I often think that it can’t be right that I’m a Mum and I’m going to get found out and my son will be taken away- it’s just pure craziness! I’m an intelligent woman, I know it doesn’t make sense, yet I still feel it.

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  8. Laura at Palette of Thoughts

    Omg I love this post!! I definitely felt like this when I started my job! I didn’t know that is what imposters syndrome was!! I don’t feel like it now three and a half years later thankfully but it’s so good to know so so many others do or have felt the same way!! Another great post ❤️

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  9. whitneyistyping

    Lav !
    Im LOVING THIS!
    its so great to see you talking about imposters syndrome!
    I have always really struggled with this a lot for as long as i can remember. Sometimes its so hard to push past especially socialy.
    Keep spreading awareness girly. Great post 💗💕
    Much love
    -whitney xox

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  10. alisonw30

    I love this post! Some brilliant advice you’ve gathered there from around social media. After 20 years in my field (HR) I still quite often think I can’t do it (and someone soon will surely notice!) One thing I have realised which helps is the things I think I’ve messed up I get hugely out of proportion and no-one else notices these (small) mistakes! Best go now and make sure my p45 isn’t waiting on my desk 😉

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  11. You put your foot in this blog post – and if you’ve never come across the saying “you put your foot in something” it just means you did an AWESOME JOB!!! So well written, you tell you put your time and energy in it. Topics and questions like this make me wonder why feelings like imposter syndrome are on the rise. Is it due to the rapid changes in our world and maybe we don’t feel like we can keep up? Is it something where imposter syndrome has always been rampant but we never spoke about it before OR now that more people are aware of the term for it, we now feel comfortable naming it?

    Questions, questions – all I know is it sucks and we gotta move past it. Great job!!

    Olliviette

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  12. lonieshap

    I love everything about this post! It’s good to know that no one goes through these things alone. And your followers gave the best advice! I’m going to try to apply it myself. xx

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  13. Ar

    Imposter syndrome is SO real, I’ve struggled with it for years. It’s something you never really get over but you can definitely grow alongside it and become more accepting – it’s not easy though xx

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  14. I had never really heard of this until now but I’m glad I have, I have had moments like it and know so many others that do too. I’m gonna go and do some more research so I can be as clued up as possible, thanks for inspiring that. This post was so well researched and thought out that it was so nice to read, you clearly know what you’re talking about and you’ve included so many other perspectives that it fills in any gap of knowledge. Awesome post as always!
    Alex xx
    http://allthingsalexx.wordpress.com

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  15. What a great blog post! I love how you got everyone engaged and providing real-world examples! It’s so nice to know that everyone either gets a little (or a lot) anxious about their new or even old job roles. I sometimes feel this way for sure! Actually, I sometimes just feel like a big kid but everyone sees me as a grown woman! I mean I know I am mature and that I can handle much much more than a 16 and 17 years old but I still feel that I am just faking it at this whole adult thing. I am working on feeling more confident. What has helped is that I stretched myself and put myself out there more. Once I did more things that I didn’t normally do, even at work, I started gaining confidence that I am capable of more than even I expect! So fake it till you make it! Just know you WILL make it!

    Teri – Millennialadulting.life

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